Can a smooth rejection constitute harassment? Let us examine one case. We’ve obtained a transcript of a conversation between two people on a dating app. We’ve replaced the user handles with A and B for the sake of the privacy of the people involved. Moreover, we do know that A is an enby, but we don’t know the gender of B.

A: Our date was nice. Say, I’d like to pursue something between the two of us.

[Two weeks of silence go by.]

B: Sorry, I did not mean to ghost you. I don’t think you and I are on the same page. The date was nice but I don’t wish to pursue anything with you.

A: Okay. No problem.

B: What?

A: I don’t have a problem with you not wanting a relationship.

B: Wait a damn minute! I am an extraordinary human being! You should be begging me for a relationship. What kind of man are you?

A: I’m not a man. I’m an enby. I don’t know if it is due to the fact that I’m nonbinary or autistic, or what, but I don’t have a competitive bone in my body, and I don’t force people into things. If you don’t want a relationship with me, then so be it. I wish you good luck in your search.

B: Good luck?! You think I’m going to need luck? You think I’m so fugly that I’m going to need luck? WTF!

[A blocked B.]

The person we called B went to the police claiming harassment, mainly because of the “good luck” wish. We issued a FOIA request to get the transcript from the police records. The police issued this statement: “Someone who does not pitch a fit when you break up with them is not harassing you. Just get on with your life! Okay?”

We cannot prove this, but we strongly suspect that B was neurotypical because of their reaction to “good luck.”

Rain Smith, an autistic enby, managed to land an interview with a prestigious technology company that shall not be named in this story. Smith explains, “I was nervous. It is rather hard for us to pass interviews and land a job. Last interview I did, they told me I was both underqualified and overqualified for the same job.”

Unfortunately for Smith, they did not pass the interview. We reached out to the interviewers for an explanation. Nancy Watson, head of HR, looking away in the distance, said, “Smith was not using eye contact enough. It is a dead giveaway because liars avoid eye contact.”

On the other hand, Robert Billings, head of engineering, with a unblinking gaze exposing our very soul, explained, “Smith used too much eye contact in their interactions with us. It is well known that people who excessively look at you have something to hide.”

Watson continued, “There’s a sweet spot of eye contact we look for. We want candidates to show just the right amount of eye contact.” Asked for further comments, Watson said, “Oh! And Smith also asked for accommodations. We all know what this means: this person is just faking for attention. Am I right?”

Smith is still on the lookout for a job. They are currently learning how to produce just the right amount of eye contact to pass an interview.