Can a smooth rejection constitute harassment? Let us examine one case. We’ve obtained a transcript of a conversation between two people on a dating app. We’ve replaced the user handles with A and B for the sake of the privacy of the people involved. Moreover, we do know that A is an enby, but we don’t know the gender of B.

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A: Our date was nice. Say, I’d like to pursue something between the two of us.

[Two weeks of silence go by.]

B: Sorry, I did not mean to ghost you. I don’t think you and I are on the same page. The date was nice but I don’t wish to pursue anything with you.

A: Okay. No problem. 🙂

B: What?

A: I don’t have a problem with you not wanting a relationship.

B: Wait a damn minute! I am an extraordinary human being! You should be begging me for a relationship. What kind of man are you?

A: I’m not a man. I’m an enby. I don’t know if it is due to the fact that I’m nonbinary or autistic, or what, but I don’t have a competitive bone in my body, and I don’t force people into things. If you don’t want a relationship with me, then so be it. I wish you good luck in your search.

B: Good luck?! You think I’m going to need luck? You think I’m so fugly that I’m going to need luck? WTF!

[A blocked B.]

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The person we called B went to the police claiming harassment, mainly because of the “good luck” wish. We issued a FOIA request to get the transcript from the police records. The police issued this statement: “Someone who does not pitch a fit when you break up with them is not harassing you. Just get on with your life! Okay?”

We cannot prove this, but we strongly suspect that B was neurotypical because of their reaction to “good luck.”